The dissolution continues…
Life is not a novel. Because of my voracious reading habits, I tend to want to see my life as a plot with an identifiable trajectory. Each year that goes by I try to fit in what’s going on with how I remember my personal history. Maybe everyone does this to some extent: the stories we tell ourselves are an important part of our identity. And they can be powerful. Generally though I am skeptical of reading too much meaning into a concatenation of circumstances.
Nevertheless, it is difficult for me to avoid viewing this period of my life as a time of dissolving the old and ushering in the new (I hope there will be something new). If I wanted to be dramatic about it, I could say it’s a metaphorical death and rebirth, but phoenixes are somewhat overused. Thinking over the past 6-9 months, here are some of the things that have happened:
–My academic job search totally failed (expected, but still confirmation of an ending)
–My first Kindle, with thousands of books on it, died and could not be resuscitated
–My classic iPod, companion of my days and nights, with many hundreds of audiobooks and backups of important pictures, died and could not be resuscitated
–My computer, with seven years of work and personal writing, died and could not be resuscitated
–I withdrew from two academic conferences
–I started to re-define myself as a non-academic job candidate
–I realized that ageism is real and that to most people I am middle-aged (wait, what? Yeah, it’s true).
–My mother had spine surgery (again)
–My father was hospitalized for a few weeks (home now and apparently ok; we’ll see when I visit next weekend)
–My first and most precious teacher died (this week; hence the silence of the past couple of days)
I don’t want to be melodramatic. All the same, I have to admit there are days when this looks to me as if the universe is trying to wake me up and let me know that it’s time to start moving in a different direction. Or that I’m going to be pushed in a different direction whether I like it or not. The two most important teachers of my life are now deceased. My parents are not in imminent danger but they are pretty clearly at the point when it’s going to be more about me and my brother taking care of them than them taking care of us. It’s never impossible to have a mentor but I’m at a stage when other people expect me to be a mentor instead of an apprentice. I have an instinctive resistance to this because I’ve always been most comfortable as a student, formal or informal. Pretending to be authoritative on some subject has never been my strong point–which may indeed have something to do with my failure as a would-be professor.
Yesterday I had an awful, terrible headache. PILW claimed it was a migraine; maybe it was, although I have never been a person who is subject to migraines or indeed to many illnesses at all. Disgustingly healthy, that’s me, most of the time. Since moving here though I’ve started to get headaches with changes in the weather. Yesterday I think it might have been brought on by a lot of crying the day before as well as a shift in temperature and pressure. Or maybe, as PILW suggested, simply an accumulation of stress. Overall I think I’ve been dealing with stress pretty well, but then again, when you start to make a list of current stressful things, my list is rather extensive. I spent most of the day lying down. The pain in my head made me feel nauseous. You are correct if you guessed that I did not accomplish anything yesterday. Only this morning after a second dose of excedrin did the headache break. Things might be on the right track again. And it is sunny. So, in the spirit of looking forward, not back, and emphasizing the positive, here are things that are good right now:
Job Search things
1. Had a follow-up interview yesterday for a position which would be a great fit for me. I think it went ok. Best case, they want to hire me. Worst case, a very competitive elite institution views me as a close finalist for an exciting job. I can live with that.
2. My erstwhile advisor spoke to the hiring person for the above position when he called for references. Advisor said that he (hiring person) seemed very positive about my candidacy and advisor did everything he could to further the positive impression. Thank you advisor!
3. I got an invitation to visit a different campus for an alt-ac interview. Stressful, but yes, it is good to have choices.
4. I have another first interview by Skype next week.
5. I got some interesting information about data science and what it might take to get a master’s in data science. (On a whim I entered my e-mail address and phone number on the site for an online MIDS program, and got a call from an admissions counselor within hours. Impressive). I’m not sure that’s something I want to do–the payoff would have to be pretty darn big to get me to consider going back to school. But the person I spoke to confirmed that learning Python is important, and that helps me narrow down my “what to learn next” list. He also confirmed that my background and experience might make me a competitive candidate, which is good to know.
Non-job things
1. It’s sunny! And beautiful! And warm!
2. There are flowers!
3. There are four avocados in the kitchen which have reached just the right point to make a big bowl of guacamole for tonight’s dinner.
4. Age of Ultron is out and PILW and I might go see it this weekend.
5. My headache has retreated.
6. I have a bike. I love to ride my bike.
7. I am healthy.
8. I have plenty of supplies and things around to make creative stuff.
9. My brother is awesome.
10. Yesterday the team doing renovations across the street dropped off promotional materials on our front porch. It’s one of the best promotions I’ve ever seen: there was a flyer in a plastic bag and also in the bag was a rubber duckie! A rubber duckie with a white hardhat and an orange construction vest, holding a roll of blueprints under one wing. Really quite clever, and appropriate since the company apparently specializes in kitchen and bath remodeling. I’m not a fan of junk mail and the kinds of flyers that get rubber banded to the front door handle but this was so cute and original, I can’t help liking it.
Have a great weekend everybody!